While you may desperately want to solve this for them, you can't. If they're not in therapy, this is the one big thing you can do to make their life better: encourage them to seek help. "Stress the importance of therapy to them," says McBain. "They are going to need a safe place to process this trauma on a deeper level with a trained professional."
Sometimes people who've been in therapy for trauma before have had bad experiences; not all therapists or counselors are created equal, and some can end up blaming or shaming the person they're supposed to help. If your friend or family member strongly resists therapy for this reason or any other reason, McBain says, "give examples from your own life about how it was helpful to you, if possible." If you have other friends who've gone through trauma and found help — or have found it helpful yourself — this may be the time to bring that experience into the conversation.
Trauma is a complicated thing to process, and confiding about it to someone close to them can be a big risk. The best way to support your friend is by thanking them for trusting in you, and tell them that you're there for them in any way you can be.
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